| Maintenance sex means making an effort to jump each other on a regular basis-even if you are both not necessarily in the mood at the time.Once your body starts going through the sexy motions,your brain will get in on the action too.So instead of channel surfing/snuggling in front of the TV to unplug from your jobs,pull him into bed the second you are both home from work and start making out.Then slowly start peeling off each other’s clothes.Another suggestion:even if neither of you are morning people,set the alarm early to have a 10-minute quickie before work.Then try it again the next day or the day after.Just make sure you don’t skimp on foreplay.Maintenance sex is not going to be satisfying if you always rush into intercourse.Biologically speaking,there are not any major hormonal changes going on with either of you at this juncture.But you are in danger of going on sexual auto-pilot.After two years,you settle into a sexual pattern.But this is actually the time when getting creative in the bedroom is more important.The key:breaking the habits that have turned your sex from playful to perfunctory.If dirty talk was never part of your repertoire,whisper some lascivious words to him during sex.You are creating a sex language that’s only for the two of you.Also,aim for to as cautious spontaneity,such as getting it on in your locked bedroom while your party guests are downstairs or doing it in the car,even if it’s just in your driveway.Explore a position that you and your man may have felt was a little taboo or tricky but that you are totally curious about.Or incorporate sex toys into your sack sessions!Pushing the envelop may feel awkward at first,but it really pays off. |